Nation News - Relationships and Violence, Domestic Violence: a global conversation

The Rihanna and Chris Brown debacle, February 8 and 9.
Reaping: "Domestic Violence: A Global Conversation," (c) 2009 Essay Course comments by Itha Alleyne, for The J.D. Home Schooling Program, Poems a La Carte, for: "Africans Abroad,"(c) 1980/2009 a work-in-progress;

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Rihanna "alone" on the Town : 3/21/2009 Rihanna "you are not alone," domestic violence is a global conversation that spans all time, it is a historical continuous problem in this world. It is a hate crime that comes from self-hatred disguised as a product of a love relationship. Both Chris Brown and Rihanna began there careers at the tender age of 16. Both exposed to adults that may have acted unprofessionally toward them, as rumors may suggest. Hopefully what the folks in Barbados will take from this is that U.S.A. is a culture that is unlike that in Barbados. The close openness of our society is vastly different than the anonymous closed door, you can do whatever you want to do, here in the states. Jealousy is a big part of someone battering a person's face. Chris Brown could also be sued because Rihanna makes her living from her face and her beauty as a Cover Girl Make-up model, from this alleged battery he has publicly stated sorrow about and hopes to emerge a better person with help and counselling. The facts concerning the legal reasons Rihanna had to return to the United States is greatly responsible for her seemingly returning to Chris Brown. She for better and/or for worse is legally contracted to the record company and the songwriting contract that Chris Brown has her tied to. He has written songs on her albums. Mr. Evan (Rogers) that is credited as the one who led her straight to The Def Jam may not have known that she is a great talent and maybe needed a different type of record label that could have made better use of her talent and her cross-over appeal. The videos of Rihanna look like she is a victim also of some form of ill. I can't imagine that she had to be marketed this way, as in the disturbia video. Hopefully these videos are not just a reflection of the way she was being treated all along and then videos feed to the public as artistic product. As in one video she is introduced by JayZ as "Little Miss Sunshine," "Ho" which then leads into this beautful voice she has. It hurts to see this kind of continued abuse of women in media in general, and especially knowing that there are young girls and boys that are trafficked as sex slaves in some parts of the world. These video and/or perssonal events in Rihanna's life is an Angel of the Lord, situation that will lead her life toward a better day. For Whatever is intended for our evil God does make for all our Good. If Chris Brown admits to the abuse and publicly shows himself working at a long term effort and speaks out to other young men and women and let them know that it is not a favor that they do for anyone when they do not commit violence. But, that it is an opportunity they give to themselves to live a happy and trouble free life out of a jail, then he will be a better person. If Rihanna can continue to be the loving Woman that she is, that has survived the abuse and that can love them that dispitefully use you and pray for them that abuse you. She will be a better person. She has done what is the reality of women who have gone through what she has gone through. Rihanna needed her father or mother to have come with her to the United States when she was 16 and stick with her throughout all her dealings with the power brokers that make their living making these stars. She deserved better than what has happened to her and her family. She needed her Dad to be there for her. Beyonce whom is the predecessor to that "Good Girl Gone Bad," scenario has her father and her mother in her life, managing with the managers. Rihanna's career as a young girl was shaped with the junk they couldn't put into Beyonce's career. The videos represent an image of dressing up edgey which is not as serious by itself, but coupled with the idea that the video is just what has happened is serious. Rihanna is our Ambassador of Good Will. She represents our country, our culture and our strong Christian practices. Stand by her, support her, call her home to her royal duty, uplift her from this hurt that she, Robin Rihanna Fenty has gone through. She came to the U.S.A. a little girl who likes fashion, dress-up and music. She could not have known that she was entering into a business that would only want to present her in a manner that reflects what is sometimes done to innocent individuals on cameras, behind closed doors and other people's influence of fantasy. For future reference Barbados get your own music industry together who have a successful international group known as the Merry Men utilize all of your natural resources, and remember we are all Barbadians that are born Barbadian. Come together and move forward. Don't turn your talented children over to an industry and people who you do not know or understand what their business is about. Children must be treated like pearls that are cast in a world that does have swine in it. Though we cannot prevent everything bad that may happen to children in this world, we can at least make the best effort to help those that need good people to come to their aid. Help Rihanna find her higher calling from this event. Our politicians need to recognize the value of her star power and lend her a hand and stand up against the neglect of young men and women, teens who need guidance and the right understanding about the use of violence in any domestic form.
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From Itha, your Bajan New Yorker. Itha Alleyne, A.A.S. Sec. Sci. Legal, New York City Technical College; B.S., M.A., in Business Education; Music Business - Music and Performing Arts Professions, The Steinhardt School of Education, New York University, Graduated 2003.. Author and Home Schooling Parent, Co-Director of Curriculum with Student Director, J.D., co-author and designer of the home school program.

Rihanna commentary March 21, 2009 in the Nation News - Home - story titled "Rihanna
"Alone" on the Town. Comment: Rihanna "You are not alone," domestic violence is a global
conversation that spans all times, it is a historical continuous problem in this world. It is a hate crime that comes from self-hatred disguised as a product of a love relationship.... go to Nation News at http://www.nationnews.com/story/rihanna-steps-out-PEOPLE-copy-for-web#

IGNORANCE IS BLISS : 3/24/2009 When you are laughing the whole world laughs with you, when you are crying no one wants to cry with you. The shame will be on Barbados as the dialog is against this child of Barbados and her mistakes, rather than on proactive measures against violence, which some others in Barbados maybe living with and have no place to run from home to. If Chris Brown hadn't publicly been caught in this alleged abuse of Rihanna, or Ri, Ri as affectionately known, the few outspoken Sad Bajan folks didn't care to know about whether that child Rihanna was seeing good or bad as long as we; the world could be ignorant about these terrible things. You celebrated her 2008 Feb 20 birthday with "Rihanna Day." You all were proud to have produced such a beauty with such a great intellect and talent. You didn't care about how long she stood at school. You enjoyed the status her success brought Barbados just as much as you think she has. It is better to be in the house of mourning than the house of Joy. Especially when your joy maybe derived from the evil that is done to someone behind closed doors. The shame will be that all the critics that want to act like educated Barbadians have never heard of or experienced such terror is just showing foolish pride. Pride cometh before the great fall. Put away this False pride game and get down to the business of dealing with this issue as a global as well as an urgent societial ill that crosses all educational, social and economic levels in most of the civilized world. Chris Brown Came to Barbados, he saw that Rihanna has a people that loved her and backed her and maybe got very jealous. The shame on The the few outspoken Sad Bajans is that their care too late. These Sad Bajans sound like fair weather folk that will eat the dainties of the devil's table as long as none of the crumbs drop on their floor, to make a mess in the house. Wipe your mouths of the remains of the dainties and see if you all can clean up your houses together. Put down your stones and start polishing your glass houses. Remember to Smile, God Loves You.
From Itha Your Bajan New Yorker

The Lizanne Crichlow and Adrian Alvin Kirton Story:
PREVENT IS STILL BETTER THAN CURE.Date: Sat, 28 Mar 2009 20:18:10 www.nationnews.com However hurtful it is to the families of Lizanne Crichlow and Adrian Kirton, it can never be undone that these two young lives are entangled in death and life to this misery. Adrian Alvin Kirton is going to be always remembered as the killer of Lizanne Crichlow, which is something both families have to live with. But as a society don't lose sight of the need to keep young people out of these situations. UTILIZE THIS MAN'S ATTEMPT TO CHANGE. IF SOCIETY DOES NOT INSTITUTE ENOUGH MEASURES TO STEER YOUNG PEOPLE IN A POSITIVE DIRECTION WE CAN LOSE OUT ON THE POTENTIAL OF SOME. PROBLEMS WITH ANGER IS NOT PASSED ON FROM PARENTS IN IT SELF. WE HAVE TO RECOGNIZE THAT ANGER IS A SPIRITUAL MALADY THAT SOMETIMES NEEDS TO BE DEALT WITH IN PEOPLE'S LIVES FROM CHILDHOOD INTO ADULTHOOD. This crime committed when Mr. Kirton was 17 years of age, indicates a serious childhood issue for him. Make sure that your anger as a society does not prevent you from utilizing his chance to reform. Now that he has returned to his mum. He needs to try to give of himself to the Crichlow family. I suggest that if Mr. Kirton reads this that he please set aside a portion of his proceeds from his work that sells, to set up a scholarship in the name of Lizanne Crichlow that someone who is struggling to get an education can do so in her name. That he recognize her lose to her family and society with this gesture. If there is anyway that they have forgiven him. He can for the sake of his own good, continue to be a law abiding citizen. PREVENTION IS STILL BETTER THAN CURE SO THERE WILL NEVER BE ANOTHER SUCH TRAGEDY TO HIS NAME. LET HIM MAKE A GOOD NAME FOR HIMSELF NOW. Mr. Kirton can help change other young folks from making his mistake. Study his mistake that he can teach others. He has still a long road ahead, and can have a hand in someone's need for help. PERHAPS IF HE HAD HIS TALENT FOR ART IN HIS YOUTH IT MIGHT HAVE BEEN HIS CURE. He can do a lot now. He can teach art to young juveniles that are in rehabilitation. ART IS GOOD THERAPY IT CAN HELP A PERSON GET INTO THEIR DEEPER THOUGHTS AND SELF. Let him get this second chance to be a better citizen.